Are You Selling Yourself Short?
Have you been your own worst enemy? Sitting at your desk, doing your work, not raising your hand and hoping no one really pushes you to grow? Is it time to polish your brilliance and let people see who you are and what you can do?
You are the only one who knows your limits. Truly. There will be those who want to place their own limits on you and define your abilities based on their assumptions and knowledge. But honestly, you are the only one who knows, deep down, what you are capable of accomplishing.
Are you settling for less than you deserve?
Inertia is a force to be reckoned with in any life or career. Playing it safe. Choosing the known. Letting those who are braver – not necessarily more skilled or smarter – simply braver, step ahead of us and rise to the top. Playing it safe is, in the end, not a great choice. Especially if you are like me and most attorneys at our core – competitive and driven towards excellence. You will know you are settling for less and that will impact your ability to thrive and sustain any success you achieve.
As the saying goes, it is better to have tried and failed than to simply sat there and be overlooked. Actually, that is not really a saying, but something along those lines should be. Don’t you think? There is nothing worse than you not believing in yourself.
If you don’t believe in yourself, ask yourself why?
Take a look at your motivations and get some honest answers. If you need to, get a coach to help you understand – nothing wrong with getting help. Then get angry – yes, angry. Anger is a useful emotion for getting us into action. It moves us away from being victims and into our power.
Use your anger to get you motivated. Every week do something that pushes your comfort zone. Learn to push your boundaries. Step up and volunteer for that court appearance or case. Raise your hand to take on something new. Let your leaders know you are ambitious and not willing to take a silent back seat.
As you embrace discomfort, you will learn to trust yourself more. You will gain confidence and credibility. So many times we choose a safe, known route rather than stepping out and taking a risk. If you fall and fail, well, that can hurt AND the lessons learned will be worth it. Get up, dust yourself off and try again. Nothing is worth allowing yourself to settle.
You deserve so much more. Go out and get it!
Sometimes you just need some support or an impartial sounding board to get you into action.
Let’s talk and see how I can help you move more quickly into clarity.
Success is a team sport. You don’t have to do this alone.